Thursday, February 21, 2008

AN ARTICLE BY JUSTIN

The Millennial Generation

by Kendall Lanier

Since before my teenaged years I’ve been hearing the term “Generation X.” I always thought I guess that’s me. I just felt a little different than my older brothers and sisters, the real Gen-Xers. I am of the troubled ADD generation, raised on Adderol and Xanax. I’m coming of age in a very special time and my sub-generation is going to see really amazing changes. Some of these changes will be on our account.

At 23 I am old enough to remember when flat-top haircuts and high-top shoes were cool. I had an unhealthy interest in slap-bracelets and stood in line to buy the new in-line skates. I remember when the Chicago Bulls and Dallas Cowboys couldn’t be defeated and that “Bills” in Buffalo Bills stood for “Boy I love losing Super Bowls.”

I remember when my 486 was the fastest PC on the market and six months later it being a paperweight. I was there at the genesis of CD burning, zip drives, and a new service called America Online. I celebrated the death of dial-up and the birth of Road Runner.

I had a learner’s permit when we rocked in the new millennium with Silverchair’s “Anthem to the Year 2000.” I was a senior in high school when the Towers fell along with the illusion that everything in the world was just fine. I cried that September morning and while I don’t remember Challenger, I shed tears when Columbia fell too.

I watched 60 cable channels become 1300. I helped my Dad and brother struggle to bring in our new 36” tube TV, then watched my father effortlessly hang a plasma-filled 52” HD flat screen over the fireplace.

I am the proud owner of an iPod and camera phone but remember the end of cassette walkmans and car phones. I have a Myspace page, an iTunes account, and I watch hysterical videos from friends all over the country on You Tube. I remember Napster and still hate Lars Ulrich for its demise. Whenever I’m in doubt I simply “Google” it.

Despite all these things the term Generation X doesn’t sit quite right with me. For a while we toyed with Generation Y and the Information Generation but those definitely were not right either. I was born in the mid 80s. My older siblings were born in the mid 70s and consequently are solid Gen-Xers. Since technically I’m in the same generation I guessed I was Gen-X too but I didn’t like it.

I didn’t realize I was in the middle of something totally new. A generation doesn’t mean the same thing anymore. Generations will now be defined by the times and not births of parents, children and grandchildren. Before the age of information technology it took a whole generation, in the old sense of the word, for any significant change in lifestyle or thinking to occur. Not anymore.

Generation Xers were born in the 70s, lived through the 80s and are now entering middle age. My generation is just starting out into young adulthood. The lifestyle and philosophy gap between our older siblings and us is enough to define a new generation. Everyone born in the 80s and early 90s weren’t really awake enough in the 80s to be affected by them. So we can’t really be Gen-X. Our older brothers and sisters in turn were born just a little early to catch the wave we ride with ease. We simply caught a bigger wave in the same set and passed them by.

For us things are very different. Our generation is issued cell phones by age 12. Being smart and getting good grades are cool. We’ve always had Instant Messaging and high speed access to a truly massive internet. For us, being totally spoiled is perfectly normal. Almost everybody smokes pot. Many were drinking and using a variety of drugs, and have since middle school. We lose our virginity in the 9th grade, if not sooner. Casual sex is fine so our parents buy us birth control at 14. We love the term “**** buddy” and nearly invented youth rehab as a full-fledged industry.

What we didn’t get was a name. We are the younger brothers, sisters and, in a scant few extreme cases, the children of Generation X. We are the new breed and no one knows what to call us, or frankly what to do with us.

Enter Heather Smith, Executive Director of Rock the Vote and at 31 a solid Gen-Xer. In Esquire Magazine’s “Best and Brightest 2007” (Dec. 2007) Heather gave us a gift I am incredibly grateful for. She gave me and my sub-generation a name. Thanks to Heather Smith I am now a proud member of the Millennial Generation.

It’s a perfect name because we were born just in time to give Planet Earth a swift kick in the pants at the end of the 20th Century. We have ring tones that adults can’t hear and text messages that the CIA couldn’t decode. We’re smart, creative, do whatever we want, and we know how to get away with it.

In 2008 the Millennial Generation is one-quarter of the eligible voters. By 2016 we will be one-third of the vote. “Note to D.C.: stop pandering to the geezers and stop ignoring young voters. Because this year we will vote in numbers you’ve never seen before.” We are, without doubt, going to dominate this early part of the 21st century like no other generation has ruled in their time before. (Smith/208)

Generation X was “detached, un-informed, and self-absorbed.” The Millennial Generation may still be self-absorbed and we are young enough to not have much real responsibility just yet, but we’re “cut from a very different cloth” than Generation X. We don’t just sit around whining about problems in Washington and the rest of the world. We come up with creative solutions that could actually work. We are the most diverse generation ever and consequently the most accepting of diversity. (Smith/209)

In 2004 Rock the Vote helped over 800,000 young people register to vote, myself included. This year, Smith says, “We’re going to register two million of these kids… and they’re going to determine the next President of the United States.” (Smith/235)

For the first time we out number senior citizens who for too long ruled the vote, pestering us with their antiquated laws and ways of thinking. Finally we’re doing it right. Finally the not too distant future leaders of this great country will control the world we’re inheriting.

We’re the Millennial Generation, and we’re about to rock our world.

JUSTIN'S FIRST VISITORS

Last weekend Justin was blessed with a visit from his grandparents, Momma Gen and Papa Jack - his first visitors since leaving Volusia County Jail back in September of 2007. They were the first visitors to arrive at the facility - bright and early at about 7am Saturday morning. After around an hours wait, finally warm and loving hugs were exchanged upon first greeting, then conversation ensued for many hours while sitting together at a table. Before returning to Central Florida, Gen and Jack went back to see Justin for a few more hours of connecting.

Justin's dad, Scott, and his sister, Amanda, are still waiting for approval in order to be able to visit Justin. It can take 12 weeks from the time Graceville receives our Visitation Applications to be approved, so if you want to take a trip up to the Panhandle to brighten Justin's world...you may want to turn in your paperwork as soon as possible.

NEW MAILING ADDRESS


Justin Lanier #V28885
Graceville CF, A1 - 116U
5168 Ezell Road
Graceville, FL 32440


Graceville CF (click link to access more information)

Saturday, February 9, 2008

JUSTIN'S BOOK...An Explanation

I've been asking Justin to explain what the book he's writing is all about, and he suggested I post the following on this blog because he's "had many inquiries" such as mine. So, verbatum, here is what Justin has to say:

"Many of you have inquired as to the nature of the book I am currently writing. If my previous descriptions of said book have been vague, it is because they were meant to be. At this time, in my current beginning phase of production, I feel fervently that in order to maintain creative continuity I must remain unbridled as to anyone else's potential outlook of my work. I am sanguine that all of you will one day be absorbed in the fruits of my labor while lounging by the fire in your favorite chair. Nonetheless, I have endeavored to inscribe a portion of my memoirs soley for my own self-exploration.

I am not so cruel as to leave you all in the dark. It is my intention to record, with all possible accuracy, the emotional, spiritual and physical aspects of my life. I hope to cover my life's events from approximately my twentieth birthday on through my move away from home, my additictions, my accident and my long broken road of rehabilitation. I am sure that many events of my childhood, especially from my teenage years, will play a pivotal role of support as well.

I do not plan to write about my incarceration except to explain that it did indeed come about as a result of my reckless behavior of drug and alcohol addiction. I do not plan to sugarcoat the potentially disagreeable portions, nor do I intend to be self-aggrandizing. I simply wish to relate my inner journey as it happened. The good, the bad and the ugly."

Monday, December 17, 2007

GIFTS ~ Master List

The following is a master list of books, magazines, etc. that Justin has either personally requested or ones that have already been ear-marked as sent or "Gifted" to him recently.

If you would like to give him something from this list or send something else, I ask that you please make me aware of it so that it can be posted as "Gifted" in order to illiminate duplicates.

PLEASE remember that you MUST FOLLOW D.O.C. & GRACEVEILL CORRECTION FACILITY RULES & REGS so that your gift conforms to the necessary criteria in order to insure that Justin will receive what you send to him. It MUST be NEW and sent from a RETAIL establishment, i.e. Amazon, Borders or Barnes & Noble, etc. (buying on Ebay, etc. won't work!) and it also must be sent via U.S. Postal Service.

MAGAZINES (in order of Justin's preference):
TransWorld Snowboarding (or some snowboarding mag)
Motor Trend - GIFTED
Car and Driver
Sport Rider - GIFTED
Dirt Rider - GIFTED
Splot! (or some paintball mag)
Maxim...or Stuff...or FHM

ADDITIONAL MAGAZINES not requested but given:
Counselor: A Magazine for Addiction Professionals - GIFTED

N O T E: Maxim, Stuff & FHM may NOT be DOC acceptable material to deliver to inmates, therefore I recommend calling Graceville Correctional Facility before purchasing a subscription.

BOOKS (self-help in order of Justin's preference):
Alcoholics Anonymous: Big Book
More, Now, Again: A Memoir of Addiction by Elizabeth Wurtzel
Prozac Nation by Elizabeth Wurtzel
Winning Against the Wacko's in Your Life: by Christina Eckert
Million Little Pieces by James Frey
Dictionary - GIFTED
Thesaurus - GIFTED

ADDITIONAL BOOKS not requested but given:
Came to Believe by AA Services - GIFTED
Breathe Life into Your Life Story: How to Write a Story People Will Want to Read by Dawn Thurston - GIFTED
Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives by Dan Millman - GIFTED
Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw, MA - GIFTED
How to Publish Your Articles: A Complete Guide to Making the Right Publication Say Yes by Shirley Kawa-Jump
The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh - GIFTED

BOOKS (recreational reading):
Anything by Dale Brown
Any of the "Alex Cross" or "Womens Murder Club" series by James Patterson
2nd Chance by James Patterson - GIFTED
Anything by Stuart Woods...but the following Justin would specially enjoy:
Dead in the Water by Stuart Woods
Dirt by Stuart Woods
New York Dead by Stuart Woods - GIFTED
Swimming to Catalina by Stuart Woods
Worst Fears Realized by Stuart Woods

ADDITIONAL BOOKS not requested but given:
Wild Fire by Nelson Demille - GIFTED
Black Tide by Brendan Debois - GIFTED

Primary Storm by Brendan Debois - GIFTED
The Road by Cormac McCarthy - GIFTED
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne - GIFTED

Jungle: A Harrowing True Story of Survival by Yossie Ghinsberg - GIFTED
Desperate Journeys, Abandoned Souls: True Stories of Castaways and Other Survivors by Edward E. Leslie - GIFTED
A Walk For Sunshine: a 2,160 mile expedition for charity on the Appalachian Trail by Jeff Alt - GIFTED
Listening Is an Act of Love: A Celebration of American Life from the StoryCorps Project - GIFTED

PICS:
Justin's family, friends and new acquaintances...and also photos of his cars, trucks, motorcycles, paintballing, etc.

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

MAIL

Have you heard from Justin at Graceville yet?

Maybe you've noticed his amount of letter writing has slowed down - but that's okay. It makes sense, too...because he is most likely acclimating to his new life and also because my writing has tapered off. I now write a steady 3 -5 page typed letter about once a week. It can be difficult to know what to write and all too often my content is redundant...but redundant most likely beats not hearing anything from home. At least I'm hoping so for Justin's sake.

The following are some excerpts from his latest letters:

Uh, I don't even know who you talked to at Graceville about the "extensive" library, but they lied to you big... It's worse than a bad joke. I, personally, own more books than this place! And all (the books) they have are Nancy Drew plus some other garbage geared toward teen girls. I swear I'm not makin' this up! I found ONE decent book, a collection of Ray Bradbury's short stories. But it's all pretty much kids books and mostly girl kid books.

I hope to get my phone list back and receive my PIN so I can call... It's been so freakin' long since I've talked to anyone...

I still haven't gotten (much forwarded) mail from CFRC but I've gotten a few pieces....hopefully I'll get it all soon.

So, I got your envelope with the pics you sent....so awesome! I love'em and I can't wait to put them in my photo album *smiles*.

I also got something that surprised me BIG time. I received an AA book called "Came To Believe" from someone I don't know. I'm guessing it's one of your friends. It was billed to a Gregory F. of Vero Beach. Do you know him? If so, please relay my great thanks. My program of recovery has been seriously lacking since I've been incarcerated. I try, but without meetings, a sponsor, or even any literature it has been quite the struggle. So, to receive this book from a complete stranger (but someone I'm guessing is also in recovery) was TRULY awesome for me.

I thought of a few more books that would be nice to have. To make it easy for everyday, I figure I'll just let you know and you can post it up on my blog. Like having a master list. Smart, eh? That's me! Always usin' my ol' noggin'...well, perhaps not ALWAYS....*smirk*. Any-who...I'll write them all in a list at the end of this letter.

By the way, I really do appreciate all the stuff you and everyone are doing for me while I'm away. I know that you, as well as everyone else, are very busy and do have your own lives to run. So I am very grateful for all the efforts to help me with things I need or cannot do for myself. From the pictures to the copies of emails to the stamped envelopes (I freakin' LOVE those, BTW) to just telling me about your day. I'm so glad everyone takes their time out for me. I simply can't say it enough.

Uhhhhh, all I can say is it's a damn good thing I learned to like country! I swear I'm not making this up but....there's about, oh, 6 or 7 country stations - at least! That's just the ones I can pick up through thick concrete with a royal P.O.S. radio, too! It's literally like: Country radio station - Christian - Country - Country - Classic Rock - Country - Country - Hip/Hop - Pop - Country - Rock - Country - Talk - Talk - Rap - Country. It's spooky, dude! Even the Rap Station DJ has a country accent! I swear! It's true!

How's Michelle? What about Bruce & Company? And Grams...how is she?

Oh, and you asked about our Thanksgiving Dinner? We're not even going to go there because I just cannot put it into words, although travesty and sacrilegious come to mind!

Well, I'm out! Like the fat kid in dodge ball!

Love you, Miss you...Justin Kendall

Friday, November 16, 2007

PHONE CALLS

If you want to receive phone calls from Justin, first you'll have to set up an account and pay up front.

I didn't realize this fact and thankfully Scott called to share this new information after he had called Graceville CF in order to learn more about Justin's new location. They informed Scott that since they're a privately run facility - some things are done a little differently.

According to the Correctional Billing Services company, the only way to receive collect calls from anyone at Graceville Correctional Facility is to prepay through them.

How, you ask? First, click on the following website link to learn more information...

Correctional Billing Services

...then go to the GENERAL INFORMATION tab and click on the REQUEST FRIENDS & FAMILY GUIDE in order to read their PDF file.

I suggest you pay special attention to the "To Avoid Being Disconnected" section of this guide because each time a collect call is accepted, there is an additional connection fee (see more below).

Setting up an account:

Minimum amount to set up account: $50.00
Processing fee for each new charge: $6.95
TOTAL for first time minimum set up: $56.95

PLEASE NOTE - each time you add (charge) more money to your account, CBS will charge you a $6.95 processing fee. Therefore, the more you are able to charge to your account per transaction, the fewer processing fee's you'll have to pay. The maximum charge amount you can make at one given time is capped at $493.00.


Collect call charges:

Connection fee for each call: $1.30
Charge per minute: $.20
EXAMPLE charge for 15 minute call: $4.23 + tax

PLEASE NOTE - each time you accept a call there is a $1.30 connection fee, therefore you'll want to understand what you can do to avoid being disconnected. However, if you become disconnected within the first three (3) minutes of your call, you have the option of calling CBS to seek a credit for the dropped call. Their number is 800-844-6591.

CBS stated that when your account falls below a $20.00 credit, they will prompt you with this information during a collect call so that, if desired, you can add more money to your account in order to continue being able to receive Justin's collect calls. You may also check your CBS account balance anytime by either calling them or logging onto their website.

It's very important for you to know that once you have an account established, Justin will need to be notified by you through mail that he can now call and what phone numbers he should use when attempting to phone you (more than one phone number can be added to your account).

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

VISITATION

In order to be able to visit Justin, we must fill out FDOC form DC6-111A and have it processed before we're placed on Justin's approved visitation list.

From what I'm being told by the people at Graceville CF, the form will be sent out by Justin to us so we can fill it out and then mail it back to the proper department (see link below for more info). From that point it will take at least 30 days to complete our background check and process the information before we're even approved for visits.

More information can be learned from visiting this site:

FAQ: Visitation

Monday, November 12, 2007

PUSHIN' IT....to the limit !

Justin is helping out by pushing people who are wheelchair bound whenever they need to go somewhere in the facility....so reports Justin's grandmother, Momma Gen, who has learned this through his letters to her.

Gen said Justin further commented that this task is good for several reasons: it gets him out of his dorm for a little bit; it gives him something nice to do; he receives some special privileges; and it gives him extra gain-time so he'll be able to reach his 85% sentencing time sooner.

Way to go, Justin !

And thanks to Gen for sharing this tid-bit of information so all of us are able to learn even more about what's going on in Justin's world.

Sunday, November 11, 2007

MUSIC...Moves the Soul

"If Everyone Cared" is a song Justin says is inspirational to him. I researched the lyrics and listened to the song and then I, too, was also inspired. Both music and words are worthy of our time and attention. Please read the lyrics and also watch the video (double click on bottom left arrow) as it adds an enormous amount of provoking thought about the world in which we find ourselves living in today. And it'll be one more connection we have with our Justin.



NICKELBACK LYRICS
"If Everyone Cared"
From underneath the trees, we watch the sky
Confusing stars for satellites
I never dreamed that you'd be mine
But here we are, we're here tonight
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
[Chorus:]
If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died
And I'm singing
Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive
Amen I, Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive
And in the air the fireflies
Our only light in paradise
We'll show the world they were wrong
And teach them all to sing along
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive(I'm alive)
[Chorus x2]
And as we lie beneath the stars
We realize how small we are
If they could love like you and me
Imagine what the world could be
If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died
When nobody died...
[Chorus]
We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day when nobody died

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

HEROES

If you've visited our online photo album, "Justin & Family & Friends" you may have noticed that I added pics of Justin's heroes. I originally found them posted on his "My Space" site and was curious as to why he had chosen each man he claimed as his personal hero. In one of his letters he answered my question by saying:

"I chose my heroes because they all have qualities I want."

"Steve McQueen is just plain and simple - The Original American Bad Ass! Read the biography you printed for me...the guy did it ALL!!! (He) raced cars & motorcycles, acted in some amazing films, I mean the guy was amazing!"

"Charlton Heston is my hero because he took a stand for what he believes in and gave the finger to anyone who stood in his way or ridiculed him for his opinions."

"And as for Brian...Brian just has his shit together. He's funny, charismatic, smart, responsible and can do anything he tries to do and he can do anything he tries to do well."

I am learning more about my son by focusing on what is important to Justin and then learning why it's important to him. From these answers about his heroes...I can see that Justin admires; the courage to "do it all" exemplified by Steve McQueen's life; the strength of character to stand up for personal convictions shown by Charlton Heston; the committment to being well-rounded and responcible that balances his brother Brian's life.

Who are your heroes? Share them when writing to Justin and let him know what you admire about your own personal heroes.

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

I D E A S . . .

What else do you include with your letters to Justin?

Here are some things I've done that may help or inspire you to either do the same or think of other things we can mail to him!

And if you have ideas....please, please share them with me and I'll post so that all of us can learn from each other.

MOVIES...I have sent Justin articles of various movies from the web site http://www.imdb.com/ It is a great data base of information. I printed out some of his favorites, like "Monty Python" and then one of his hero's, Steve McQueens, movie "Bullitt". You could share one of YOUR favorites with him this way.

MOTORCYCLES...Brian recently acquired a new job in the heart of San Francisco and so after he and Julie moved there, Brian sold his car and bought a motorcycle. I figured Justin would enjoy reading all about his brother's newest acquisition and so I did a search online, printed out the article and included it with my next letter to Justin - http://www.gizmag.com/go/4192/

PUZZLES...On one of the prison web sites that have chat areas for family (especially wives) of inmates to connect with each other about a gazillion different subjects, I read a posting that suggested sending puzzles to our loved one. You can find all sorts of free printable puzzles online. Thus far I've sent him some Word Search, Maze and Sudoku puzzles.

MAGAZINES...Since it will work best to send Justin a magazine subscription once he gets settled into a permanent location, in the mean time I search for his favorite type of magazines (car, motorcycle and snowboarding) and print out articles from online to share with him. I always try to find a good one that includes some graphics or photos for Justin to enjoy.

WHAT ELSE...What's YOUR favorite type of vehicle ? Maybe you love the Segway or Vespa Scooter or unicycles ! Did you just add a new birdbath to your yard? Why not look up an article about birdbaths? Here's one! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bird_bath Or maybe you just added a new leaded glass front door? If so, print out an article about the History of Glass like this one - http://www.alan.hudsonnet.com/history.htm and send it to Justin.

FAMILY & FRIENDS...I encourage you to share articles with him about any and all of the things you love. Reading it will give him something to focus upon, it will help broaden his education and awareness...and maybe most important of all he'll be learning more about YOU and the things you like, love and enjoy.

REMEMBER...you can send only 5 pages of printed articles per envelope, therefore PRINT ON BOTH SIDES so Justin has more to read. That suggestion came from Justin himself! And don't forget to share your ideas of what to send Justin by emailing me at Eklectika@aol.com I need your help, too ! THANKS !!!

MAIL FROM JUSTIN

From what everyone is saying, Justin has been busy writing back to each and every person who has written to him. And some of us have been sharing our letters by reading them on the phone to each other.

It is clear that EVERYONE who loves and cares about Justin is thrilled each time we hear from him...especially when his letters reflect that he is doing okay and coping with his new environment.

There is a constant theme of appreciation woven into almost every single letter of his regarding the mail he receives from us. Justin has written: "...letters are what keeps me going", "...mail means the very most to me", "...hearing the good, the bad and the even the ugly about your life helps me feel like I'm still there", "...letters are so important to me because they help me stay connected with my outside circles (of family & friends)", and "...they are the cornerstone of helping me get through each day", etc.

Here is a letter from Justin written on the 7th of October:

Dear Momma Gen & Papa Jack,

It's hard to believe it's been a month already! Even though the days drag, when I look back it just doesn't seem like I've been gone that long.

I've been going to canteen and so I have not been so hungry and yes, I have a locker so my letters and food are safe. Unfortunately it may still be awhile before I can call anyone. But writing letters is really good for me.

Anytime an inmate is on psychotropic medication, they must go to a psych camp. So as long as I'm on my meds, I will stay at one of those facilities.

Ha! Ha! Those darn love-bugs are EVERYWHERE ! It's Crazy ! They are soooooo bad out here. I'll be glad when it cools down and the bugs aren't so bad.

How are Lara and Kristen? Doing great I'm sure. I'd write them if I could get their addresses. Could you please send them to me?

Yes, I'm sorry they shaved my head, too *smiles*. But it does cut down on maintenance. Unfortunately I'm just not one of those people who look good bald. I think I'll stick to the shaggy look. But cleaned up a little though *smiles*.

Well, football is about to start and that's a BIG deal around here. So I'm going to go for now. I miss you and I love you very much. Thanks for your prayers.

Love, Justin Kendall

PS...I don't know if Justin has mentioned this to you or not...but he has a health issue that was discovered during one of his physical exams. He wrote to me the following: "Some good news from the Veterinarian they use as a doctor in here. I don't have HIV ! Go me *silly face with tongue sticking out*! Unfortunately the bad news is I do have Moderate Asthma."

If he's mentioned other things to you in your letters that might be helpful to share with everyone, please call or send them to me via email Eklectika@aol.com and I will post them.

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

MAIL


NOTE: Letters written between 09-22 and 09-24 by Justin to his dad show that Justin has experienced some very, very difficult days that he’s struggled through. Just like our own emotions concerning Justin continually flux from fear, worry and dread to that of hope, faith and peace and sometimes a blend of both...his too are a challenge to get under control. Prison life is so new to Justin and all of us – but I believe we can gain strength from each other and develop even more love and appreciation for Justin as we travel this rough path with him. I hope his letters are as much a support to you as they are for me. Blessings, Ann.

Mail from Justin:
09-29-07

Hey Mom !

Wow. It was soooo amazing to get some mail ! Keep it coming please !!! *smiles* I was really surprised at how fast the mail worked. I look forward to getting some pictures of the garden *smiles*.
NOTE: Amanda, Justin and I planted a lovely butterfly garden together – Amanda’s idea – our last weekend before he was sentenced. It almost immediately drew both butterflies and hummingbirds to it’s beautiful flowers.

Thanks for the envelopes & stamps. I was worried I would run out. Plus, sometimes you can only get a limited number of items from the commissary. So being as hungry as I always am, I try to get food (Ramen Noodles are “da’bomb”).

I feel so incredibly lucky to have the family I do. I know that I have an amazing support group and immeasurable love at home. So many in here have nothing and what a reality check the past few weeks have been for me.

Earlier this week or like last week I had a few really rough days. Knowing that I had the love from my family kept me going when I just wanted to completely give up.

I don’t think I’ll be here at C.F.R.C. too much longer – maybe another week, two weeks tops ? Also, I have a little bit of possibly good news. I saw the Drug & Alcohol Abuse counselor and he said that based on my interview, prior treatment and the nature of my crime, he was recommending a treatment program. With my Classification Interview, the officer seemed pretty cool and he put a note in my file for a recommendation for me to be sent to Tomoka C.J. near Daytona. I’m told that it is the most lax of the psych camps around. Also, because I’m on psych meds I automatically must go to a psych camp. Those are three pretty good pieces of news to me right now.

As of right now I don’t believe I will need Protective Management but thanks for looking into it for me. Believe me…I understand your confusion and skepticism (about this classification) because I get a different story with every person I talk to as well.

I finally got to attend a NA meeting the other night. Woo-Hoo ! Man was it f’d up ! But it was a 12 Step (program) so I’m thankful either way.

You know something weird ? I think the hardest ‘concept’ to get used to is that I can’t do things my way. There is no “Complaint Department”. Customer Satisfaction just isn’t in anyone’s vocabulary. It’s just weird, you know ? Like if the line is too long I always had the option to take my business elsewhere. Not here. You have to wait. I just don’t like not being able to do what I want – or more specifically the way I want to do it. Even in rehab there was always someone to talk to, room to negotiate. Bummer, huh ?

I thought of two more movies I like that I think you and Sis will both LOVE. “Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas” and “Monty Python and the Quest for the Holy Grail”. They are among my top 10 of all time (favorites) and I think you guys will love both of them *smiles*.

I turned in my phone list so I hope I will be able to call soon. We'll see.....
NOTE: Justin has only his dad's work and home and my home numbers. If you want him to be able to call you collect, please send him your land line home or business phone numbers. Once he has your information, he'll be able to add it to his list every 6 months.
Another thing I was thinking of is – I need to revise my magazine list. If you or Sis (still) want to send me some when I get to my permanent camp, send these four (in order of importance): Maxim; a snowboarding magazine; Car and Driver OR Motor Trend; and Sport Rider or Dirt Rider.

How are things at home ? Any news on downtown Maitland ? How are Bruce & Company ? Tell him I send my love and send me his address.

Have you heard from Kerry ? If she’s sent an email recently, send one back telling her I’m thinking of her and that I send my love. I hope you can send me those email print-outs soon. Did you figure out how to get her my letter ? I hope so. I’d love to hear how she’s doing.

Well, I’m going to write sis a letter, Kerry too, I think…so I’m going to go now. I love you and I miss you bunches.

Love, Justin
NOTE: Remember, our postcards, letters, photos, news clippings, etc. to Justin are vitally important for him to receive. I encourage everyone to write often regardless of how often he writes to us and even when we don't hear back from him.
If you receive a letter from Justin and learn of information you think is important to share, please send it to me via email and I will post it here for you.
Blessings to everyone who knows, loves and/or cares about *Our Justin*.

PHOTO ALBUM

View the NEWEST photo's just added to 'Justin, Family & Friends' at the ICON link (the pic of Calvin & Hobs) below....Derrick, Michelle and others.

AND...send YOUR photo's to me at Eklectika.Ann@gmail.com so I can post them, too ! Help support Justin by adding YOUR picture here...if you care, love, pray, write or support him in any way. It will be a GREAT way to show him all the people who care.







Click on the above Icon to access the photo album for...JUSTIN & Family & Friends

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

NEWS FLASH



MAIL INFO UPDATE

The following is the maximum allowed in EACH envelope you mail to Justin:

20 STAMPS or 20 STAMPED ENVELOPES (Important: each stamped envelope is counted as only ONE STAMP and NOT as ONE stamp AND ONE envelope - so if you're going to be mailing him both, please combine them BEFORE mailing so that the envelopes will NOT be counted as envelopes but instead as just stamps).

In Addition...we may include 10 TOTAL pieces of any combination of the following - blank envelopes, blank stationary (lined, colored, different types, etc.) and/or blank greeting cards.

PERSONAL CORRESPONDENCE is completely unlimited. We can write Justin a one page letter or a thousand page letter...but it must be our own personal correspondence with him directly - either typed or hand written.

In Addition...we may include 5 TOTAL pieces of any combination of the following - photographs any size up to 8X10 or on the computer you can place as many photos as you want or can get onto one page and then print it onto one 8 1/2 X 11 piece of paper - this counts as only ONE PHOTO, printed Internet articles, cut out news paper, magazine or other news print type article (that is no larger than or equals approximately one 8 1/2 X 11 piece of paper).

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So, an example of a Manila envelope filled to the maximum capacity might look like this:

20 each Stamped Envelopes

8 each Blank pieces of stationary & 2 each Blank greeting cards (for a total of 10)

1 each unlimited pages of your Personal Letter to Justin;

2 each 8 1/2 X 11 pieces of paper printed with unlimited number of family type photos, 1 each cut out magazine article, 2 each 81/2 X 11 pieces of paper filled with info from the Internet (for a total of 5)

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ALL MAIL WILL BE FORWARDED TO JUSTIN FOR 10 DAYS ONCE HE IS MOVED.

DO NOT SEND MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS OR BOOKS AT THIS TIME.

IMPORTANT...Justin CAN NOT HAVE more than 25 stamps in his possession at one time, otherwise he is considered to be breaking the rules. I just sent him a book of 20 stamps.

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I was told the CFRC has 3,000 inmates at any given time...receiving approximately 100 new inmates each day and having approximately 100 processed inmates living each day. Each piece of mail must be opened, each piece of paper enclosed must be separated and scanned and of course they must be counting the articles and evaluating each of them as well. In addition each and every piece of mail must be checked for the correct address in case an inmate is no longer in their system. Daunting task, wouldn't you agree ???

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

MAIL



MAIL from Justin:
09-22-07

Hey Mom and Sis,

I guess you already know I'm at CFRC. Yea, it blows but I'm still alive. This place is horrible though, it really is. The only thing that's good news is that I'm being processed pretty quick and I know I'm going to a psych camp now. So far I haven't had to worry about getting my ass kicked or anything else at all. But that is where the good news stops. Everything about this place blows. There's no a/c, not enough food and it's filthy, nasty and ghetto here.

I'd really like to start getting some mail so start sending it! Just kidding. *smiles* But I would really love to read some emails and letters. Send some envelopes and stamps, too, because my phone card and the $ in my accounts will not work for about two weeks.

How's the garden? Send some pics of that, too. I hope it's looking good!

I miss you guys so bad! I wish we could go eat some 'Brio' and relax and just chill together.

Can you believe (they) shaved my head?! I wanted to cry! My beautiful hair! LOL!! I look freakin' retarded! Oh well...*smiles*.

I really hope things are going well at home. How are the kitties? I miss them, too. I wish I had more to tell you but it's just so friggin boring here. ughhh!!!

I love you both very much - Justin

I LOVE YA'LL ! !

Saturday, September 22, 2007

INSPIRATION




We all need inspiration especially during times of emotional stress.

Recently I read that losing a family member to the prison system is almost as difficult as losing them to death. Because it is like a death. We are seperated into two different worlds...ours seems "free" but we are limited because we are not "free" to contact or visit our Justin whenever or however we choose. We may also feel like we're being punished since we have lost some of those freedoms. And our loss of Justin can seem, at times, like a death because he is in a world where we do not want him to be...and we are helpless to do anything to truly set him free.

Therefore, I believe we all could use a good dose (or 3 or 4 or umpteen doses) of anything that is inspirational. The following was shared with me and it encouraged and boosted my spirit. It's my hope it will have a positive effect on you also.

To our family and friends and everyone who offers encouragement and support to Justin...blessings abundant and may you be inspired !

Dying Professor's Lecture of a Lifetime.....

Short Version: http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=3633909
Full Version: http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=3633956

Thursday, September 20, 2007

VISITS


THURS. Sept 20th...JUSTIN HAS MOVED TO CFRC and visitation is not allowed during his processing (see LOCATION & INFORMATION for more details).

WED. Sept 19th...Gen and Jack were able to visit Justin and the following is Gen's account of their visit together:

Jack and I went to see Justin we had a very good visit. He was anxious to leave there and get on to the next place.
He had gotten his self some pencils and was able to write.. he was happy about that ,said he was keeping a journal of the time he was away. . He looked good and seemed to be doing alright.

Said the food was good but just not enough of it. However said that he got his goodies this morning. Talk like he ate all day every day.

He did say he was bored because there was nothing to do there. However like I said in the begining it was a good visit. I am very happy that we went when we did.

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TUES.Sept. 18th...Upon first seeing Justin, he appeared like he wasn't doing well and I mentioned it to him. He agreed that things were tough and that he is struggling and continued to cautiously talk about what was bothering him and his concerns.

It's difficult for him to speak openly because others are always listening and he doesn't want anyone to know his "real" business, i.e. how he's feeling and thinking. So I thought it might help him if I were to ask good questions so he could simply respond with a yes or no answer.

Justin said yesterday, Monday, had been a really hard day for him...and so I asked if he had had issues with any inmates and he said yes. I didn't ask what because I figured he either wouldn't answer or couldn't. He noted he had lost 5 pounds since his arrest, isn't getting his drugs on schedule and that he's not sleeping at night.

He seemed to be in a "down" state the entire time he was focusing and speaking about his situation. Once I thought he'd had enough time to talk it out (and I had all I could handle at the moment listening), I shifted our conversation by asking him if he wanted me to read him the note Momma Gen had sent him. He immediately perked up with a quick "yes"! He seemed to relish each and every word his grandmother had written to him. And as he listened, his mood began to improve.

I had also printed out two email notes from a friend of his and read them to him - for a second time. Even though I had read them to Justin over the phone a few days earlier, from what I'm learning I now understand that inmates read and reread their mail over and over for encouragement and to be reassured that someone cares. So I figured he might enjoy hearing them again...and he did indeed.

Next I told him all about our Blog site and showed him 5 printed pages of all the text and the set up with photo icons. Even though he couldn't read what I was showing him, he could "see" that there was something tangible being done about keeping us connected in order to support him. Justin said when he first heard about it, he wasn't too sure whether he liked the idea or not...but now he thinks it's really cool. I told him I would be printing out the family and friends pics from our blog site to share with him another time and he was thrilled.

Through the week various friends of mine made comments to be shared with Justin. One friend said to tell him to "...keep his nose clean and watch his back". Another simply said, "Tell him to be strong and I am hoping for the best for him." As I shared these short and simple messages with Justin, I sensed that each word of encouragement was truly appreciated by him.

At the close of our visit Justin asked me to tell everyone "thank you" for everything each of you are doing...writing, visits, messages, notes, help with his email and MySpace, etc., and to please, "tell everyone I love them".

This wasn't an easy visit. It's difficult to know what to talk about and my awareness of him not doing well made it tough. This is a scary time for all of us...how could it not be? I find that I must work hard to not allow myself to become consumed with fears about him...because they sneak into my mind all too often and serve no purpose but to destroy my well being.

On the Internet I continue searching for help and found a book on Amazon.com called, "Family Arrested: How to Survive the Incarceration of a Loved One" by Ann Edenfield. Maybe it might be a helpful resource for us.

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SUN. Sept. 16th...Justin called and spoke with Amanda. The following is her recollection of their conversation: Justin sounded in really good spirits, upbeat and not overly negative about his situation. He seemed to accept things as they are, although there are a few aggravations that he deals with. The food is better than he expected but they don't get much of it so he feels hungry most of the time. He's not too worried, though, because they get to order commissary and he ordered a bunch of junk food to have as snacks between meals. He's in a 32-man unit and shares a cell at night with one person, who Justin said was nice and that he gets along with. There's a TV in the unit that just shows network TV and Justin's biggest complaint was that most of the inmates sit around all day yelling at the TV like it's some sort of yelling contest and that, basically, no one ever shuts up. Just talking constantly. He was super excited that Mom and Dad had gone to visit him and was also happy that he called and I was at home so we could chat. I told him that a few of his friends had posted nice comments on his MySpace and that cheered him up a lot, too. He's making the most of still being in county and said some of the guys have shown him the ropes and told him what to explain and just sort of tutored him a little and he said it helped. He also ran into someone who knew a bunch of the same people that he knows and he said that was nice. He had no major complaints, is excited about getting his assignment so he can get into a routine and look into school and get letters and write letters and just have some sense of normalcy. I did not sense that anything big was bothering him or that he felt in danger or anything like that. All in all, positive, given the situation, and just taking it a day at a time.

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FRI.Sept. 14th...Scott visited with Justin and reported that he was doing good. Justin phoned me soon afterwards and he said how really glad he was to see his dad. He was especially excited to learn that his dad had received three letters for him (Justin has given some of his friends Scott's mailing address because he didn't have a facility address yet).



Justin stated that he has gotten a hold of an AA Big Book and is devouring it. He said he wishes he could "...freeze everything good I've learned over the past two years and, like TIVO, pause things so I can fast forward to three years from now. I just hope I can hold on to the positive and not loose what I've gained." I encouraged him to remember that every single day he's already served...is behind him and he'll never have to do those days ever again.



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WED.Sept. 12th...Justin appears to be holding his own. He said he hadn't called anyone because he is concerned that if anyone were to cry or be sad...he felt it may hinder him from remaining positive and he doesn't want to become depressed.


It was great to hear Justin's voice and I told him so. I kept the conversation going by asking him questions...what were his favorite movies, what magazines would he like to receive, etc.




I asked him if he had anything to tell me...his only comment was that "it sucks in here". It's difficult to know what to say in order to not become "preachy"...but instead remain supportive so I just let him know that I had heard him by repeating back, "Yeah, I bet it sucks in there...how could it not?"




Justin listened intently when I reminded him - again - that even though we're apart he is NOT alone because he will always have our love and support. I reflected back upon the fact that he has the skills to use his time (his mind) to positively effect his life and reminded him of all the excellent help he's had over the past two years...and how he will need to draw upon those lessons in order to take good care of himself. He seemed to agree.




Letters, books, photos, photos, photos, letters, books, photos....these are the things that Justin wants to receive once he is finally settled. He's is looking forward to getting through CFRC (Central Florida Reception Center) so he can be placed and then begin correspondence with all of us.




It appeared that Justin remained cautious about what he was saying in regards to other people being so close by and it helped me realize how difficult it must be to learn how to adjust and survive in that type of atmosphere. Therefore I told Justin that he would figure out whatever he needed to do to make it through the time he must serve.



Our time together was good.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

FAVORITES


Maybe you'd like to get to know Justin even more...and what better way than finding out what his favorite "anything" is and then learning more about it ! Watch his favorite movies, read his favorite books, subscribe to his favorite magazine when you give him a subscribtion, use the library to read what he's reading, try his favorite foods, eat at his favorite restaurants, etc. The more we have in common with him...the easier it will be to communicate and connect with him.


MOVIES:

Broken Lizard's Club Dread ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Club_Dread

Disturbia ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disturbia

Gone in 60 Seconds ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gone_in_Sixty_Seconds_(2000_film)

Office Space ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Office_Space

The Forty Year-Old Virgin ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_40-Year-Old_Virgin

Wedding Crashers ~ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_Crashers

Sunday, September 9, 2007

QUESTIONS, SUGGESTIONS, IDEAS ???


At any time you can POST your ideas, suggestions, comments, questions, etc. on any posting that already exists (click on COMMENTS).
But if there is no specific posting that relates to your concerns....HERE is the place to publish your thoughts !